mom (noun) \ ˈmäm • one who sacrifices her body, sleep, social life, spending money, eating hot meals, peeing alone, patience, energy, and sanity for LOVE.
What do you do for a living?
“I am just a mom” I am the mom.
Being a mom and homemaker has got to be one of the most unvalued and underestimated “job.” Leaving the house for a job can have its pros and cons. One pro is that the parent gets to be alone, on a schedule, and doesn’t have to answer to a crying baby, prep the meals, clean the rooms, nurse the baby, and walk around with puke on their shirt.
As I run my own business from home and take it at my own pace, recently I have decided to truly embrace being a mother and homemaker. I want my home to be a safe and creative place with a simple clean living space. I want my head to be clear, my spirit present with my child, and my body feeling strong and energized.
As a mom, we can become selfless to a fault and forget about ourselves. But when we lose our identity, our days can be at the beck and call of our children. For me, mornings are when it all begins. We, as mothers, set the tone for our home. If we can have some time for ourselves while meeting the needs of those who depend on us first thing in the morning, things (sanity) falls into place. If you find yourself struggling to find your identity as a mom, you might love my tips on How To Find Your Identity After Becoming a Mom. I hope after reading and practicing the following tips on how to have a Successful Supermom Morning Routine, your home will become a safe launching point into the world and the sanctuary where you & your family can return to rest and refuel.
Let’s get into it.
Mornings come, one baby is crying, the other needs to nurse, and everyone needs to eat. You haven’t peed or brushed your teeth, let alone, had one sip of coffee. Chaos can happen if we don’t properly prepare. Here is my best tip on setting up your morning to being “plug and play” so you can spend more time doing the things you want, and less running around like a mad woman at her wit’s end.
The night before, after the children are sleeping, prepare your morning.
For me this looks like :
- Prep overnight oats and put them in the fridge (my breakfast complete)
- Set out pan for Shane’s breakfast, cutting board, knife, and even put the coconut oil in the pan
- Fill our 2 Gallons of water so they are ready to go and serve as a reminder all day long to get our H20 in + set out supplements
- Grind coffee and fill water kettle
- Lay out clean cloth diaper and outfit for Grant
- Wipe down counters
As much as I want to lay down, sip some tea, and veg to Netflix, when I do this “set up” everything in the morning feels so simple and easy. Shane and I both have our roles in the prep work and in just 5 min, we have our kitchen clean. I recommend doing this with your partner because the more nights you do it in a row, the more accountable you will hold each other. I.e one preps the coffee, while the other wipes down the counters.
Know exactly what you are going to do FOR YOU during nap #1
This has been a gamechanger for me. When we first moved and I was a new mom, I found myself cleaning, doing laundry, and picking up around the house during Grant’s first nap. Then he would wake up and I would be with him for hours; by the end of the day, I felt drained and like a zombie-maid who did everything for everyone else but herself. This is a dangerous place to be because resentment starts to kick in.
For me this looks like :
While the coffee is brewing in the morning and Grant is chilling with his toys, I run and start the sauna so it is hot by the time I lay him down. I have my breakfast sitting by the microwave so the second I lay him down, I come downstairs, eat my breakfast, take my supplements, and then hop in the sauna. While I might only be in the sauna for 10 min before I rush to take a shower, I relax, I listen to interesting/ inspiring books, and do my Win Hof breathing exercises. It’s my time and if I don’t get it or get distracted with other things, my day seems out-of-whack.
While you might not have a sauna or want to relax right away, you might be the mom who thrives off of movement first thing. Perhaps you get a jump rope and get your heart rate up in the living room, do some core exercises, or maybe you take a bubble bath. Let this be your required “me time” and every other moment you get to yourself is just a bonus. Trust me, you will be a better mom and wife if you take time for yourself first thing.
Cut yourself some slack.
I am far from perfect. In fact, most of the time I am reading over past blog posts so I can take my own advice. Its always easier said than done. Once I stopped trying to be this “picture perfect mother and wife,” my real emerged and I was more creative, unique, and totally me. Perfection should not be the goal, but rather finding yourself as the mother, wife, and expression of yourself that makes you happy. I realize now that I don’t have to do everything to be enough — for myself, for my kids, for my husband, and for my work. As a result, I’ve found that I do better when I know which things I can let go. Letting go of “getting it ALL done” is one of them.
Sometimes there will be dishes in the sink, a baby crying while you pee, missed showers, some tears, take out Thai food instead of a home cooked meal, or even that glass of wine at 4 pm. Its all okay. Being a parent doesn’t mean you have to get it ALL done, but rather getting the necessary things done while still having time for yourself and your family. Don’t give up what you need. Choose love in the face of chaos. Giggle when your baby spills puree on your freshly cleaned floor.
You might be struggling emotionally and you can’t imagine going through the motions another day. Feeding kids, cleaning messes, changing diapers, refereeing arguments between siblings- the different hats you have are endless. But regardless, you show up. You have children who depend on you, and they need you.
This season of your life won’t last forever. This season is temporary. Babies don’t keep, and time marches on.
Use the word “right now” and apply it to the end of your sentence-
I am stretched thin… right now.
The days and nights are so, so long… right now.
My toddler is a lot to handle… right now.
I am exhausted… right now.
Whatever your situation is, it is temporary. You can do this. You are strong and powerful beyond measure.
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